WEBVTT 1 00:00:00.259 --> 00:00:02.842 (upbeat music) 2 00:00:04.400 --> 00:00:07.890 - We're gonna start out by introducing ourselves. 3 00:00:07.890 --> 00:00:10.110 I'm gonna break down the circle as we go through it 4 00:00:10.110 --> 00:00:12.070 so you'll understand what the parts are. 5 00:00:12.070 --> 00:00:13.920 See this in the middle? 6 00:00:13.920 --> 00:00:16.330 This is called your centerpiece. 7 00:00:16.330 --> 00:00:19.683 That centerpiece has items in it that I, 8 00:00:20.540 --> 00:00:21.950 I use for the training, 9 00:00:21.950 --> 00:00:24.440 but more importantly that I identify with. 10 00:00:24.440 --> 00:00:26.560 When you choose a centerpiece, 11 00:00:26.560 --> 00:00:29.000 you want to choose a centerpiece 12 00:00:29.000 --> 00:00:30.460 filled with things that you 13 00:00:30.460 --> 00:00:32.760 and your community identify with. 14 00:00:32.760 --> 00:00:35.290 I know not all of you are educators in here 15 00:00:35.290 --> 00:00:38.310 but you may work with children or something like that 16 00:00:38.310 --> 00:00:40.050 and you work a state agency. 17 00:00:40.050 --> 00:00:42.330 So I have the Texas Education Agency cup there 18 00:00:42.330 --> 00:00:43.630 'cause that's important to me, 19 00:00:43.630 --> 00:00:45.320 and I have some other items down there 20 00:00:45.320 --> 00:00:46.950 but that's my centerpiece. 21 00:00:46.950 --> 00:00:49.810 Inside of that centerpiece you have a talking piece. 22 00:00:49.810 --> 00:00:54.120 I'm gonna stand up so you all can, over here can see. 23 00:00:54.120 --> 00:00:56.290 I have several different talking pieces. 24 00:00:56.290 --> 00:00:58.980 A ruler, an apple, this little heart. 25 00:00:58.980 --> 00:01:01.773 This stick was given to me when I went to a training, 26 00:01:02.790 --> 00:01:04.110 I think it was in Dallas, 27 00:01:04.110 --> 00:01:06.180 and I did the training and they had these little sticks. 28 00:01:06.180 --> 00:01:09.320 I said "Oh, these are so cute! I would like on of those." 29 00:01:09.320 --> 00:01:11.097 She said "This was a $20,000 (indistinct)." 30 00:01:11.097 --> 00:01:13.210 "Well, you can keep that stick. I'm good." 31 00:01:13.210 --> 00:01:15.180 But they said "Dr. Lang, we'll give you one." 32 00:01:15.180 --> 00:01:17.270 I said "You're so sweet, thank you!" 33 00:01:17.270 --> 00:01:18.710 And of course I teach 34 00:01:18.710 --> 00:01:20.530 at Texas Southern University as an adjunct 35 00:01:20.530 --> 00:01:22.300 and of course this my little apple from them. 36 00:01:22.300 --> 00:01:25.040 And then this is my ruler because I'm an educator. 37 00:01:25.040 --> 00:01:26.880 Of course we always know what that is. 38 00:01:26.880 --> 00:01:29.690 And this was specifically made for me 39 00:01:29.690 --> 00:01:31.650 by someone at the Texas Education Agency. 40 00:01:31.650 --> 00:01:33.867 He crochets and I said "I need me a heart, 41 00:01:33.867 --> 00:01:35.450 "because it take heart to do this work." 42 00:01:35.450 --> 00:01:37.810 This is a really hard job, it takes some heart. 43 00:01:37.810 --> 00:01:38.940 So he made me a heart. 44 00:01:38.940 --> 00:01:40.880 So I usually use this as my talking piece 45 00:01:40.880 --> 00:01:43.140 but I will allow you all to choose one of these. 46 00:01:43.140 --> 00:01:46.104 Anybody want to choose one before we get started? Yes. 47 00:01:46.104 --> 00:01:47.060 - The ruler. - The ruler. 48 00:01:47.060 --> 00:01:48.493 - Okay, you got the ruler. 49 00:01:49.620 --> 00:01:50.770 And I'm glad you choose the ruler 50 00:01:50.770 --> 00:01:53.220 because I have something to say about this ruler. 51 00:01:55.560 --> 00:01:58.800 Relationships are with people, are they not? 52 00:01:58.800 --> 00:02:00.690 Hello? Good. - [Everyone] Yes. 53 00:02:00.690 --> 00:02:03.883 So, have you had a relationship with a rule before? 54 00:02:04.870 --> 00:02:07.997 You have had a, you're in a relationship with a rule called 55 00:02:07.997 --> 00:02:11.960 "don't go, don't stop, sit down, shut up". 56 00:02:11.960 --> 00:02:14.030 You have those relationships, you don't. 57 00:02:14.030 --> 00:02:17.080 Rules are difficult to have relationships with. 58 00:02:17.080 --> 00:02:19.410 Values, on the other hand, 59 00:02:19.410 --> 00:02:21.380 we value some of the same things, 60 00:02:21.380 --> 00:02:24.200 we might be able to get into a relationship. 61 00:02:24.200 --> 00:02:27.230 That's how the premise of restorative works. 62 00:02:27.230 --> 00:02:31.940 The value systems that we have bring us in a relationship 63 00:02:31.940 --> 00:02:34.050 and we build on those. 64 00:02:34.050 --> 00:02:36.780 Okay, so we're gonna get started. 65 00:02:36.780 --> 00:02:39.350 I will have to pass the microphone around 66 00:02:39.350 --> 00:02:41.470 as well as the talking stick. 67 00:02:41.470 --> 00:02:44.670 So to do that, when we start, 68 00:02:44.670 --> 00:02:46.310 we'll start this way or that way, 69 00:02:46.310 --> 00:02:48.660 and sometimes I'll start in the middle, it doesn't matter. 70 00:02:48.660 --> 00:02:50.500 But whenever we have the prompt questions 71 00:02:50.500 --> 00:02:52.770 I have to have everybody to respond. 72 00:02:52.770 --> 00:02:56.090 First of all, we're gonna start with an icebreaker. 73 00:02:56.090 --> 00:02:57.700 An icebreaker is pretty important 74 00:02:57.700 --> 00:03:00.640 when you start working with people because it sets the tone. 75 00:03:00.640 --> 00:03:02.980 It kind of gets everybody relaxed a little bit 76 00:03:02.980 --> 00:03:04.800 and having a fun time. 77 00:03:04.800 --> 00:03:06.740 So our icebreaker this morning 78 00:03:06.740 --> 00:03:10.030 is introducing yourself to someone, 79 00:03:10.030 --> 00:03:11.560 and this is how you're going to do it. 80 00:03:11.560 --> 00:03:15.310 Some people like to shake hands, some people will high five, 81 00:03:15.310 --> 00:03:17.880 some people will fist bump, some people will hug. 82 00:03:17.880 --> 00:03:19.600 I'm a hugger by the way, I'm from Louisiana. 83 00:03:19.600 --> 00:03:21.140 We hug trees, anything. 84 00:03:21.140 --> 00:03:23.580 So I'm just a hugger. 85 00:03:23.580 --> 00:03:25.140 And the other one is butterfly, 86 00:03:25.140 --> 00:03:27.130 let me show you the butterfly. 87 00:03:27.130 --> 00:03:28.270 Like that. 88 00:03:28.270 --> 00:03:33.150 So anyway you are comfortable with greeting someone 89 00:03:33.150 --> 00:03:33.983 you can do that. 90 00:03:33.983 --> 00:03:35.527 Now if they're not a hugger you need to ask 91 00:03:35.527 --> 00:03:37.200 "are you a hugger and can I hug you," 92 00:03:37.200 --> 00:03:39.770 because some people don't like you that much in their space. 93 00:03:39.770 --> 00:03:41.880 And I'm gonna start and when I start, 94 00:03:41.880 --> 00:03:44.470 we're gonna be playing musical chairs almost. 95 00:03:44.470 --> 00:03:46.860 So I'm gonna get up and introduce myself to someone 96 00:03:46.860 --> 00:03:48.310 and I'm gonna take their seat. 97 00:03:48.310 --> 00:03:50.800 And the last person is gonna come back to me 98 00:03:50.800 --> 00:03:53.360 and then I will come back to this seat, okay. 99 00:03:53.360 --> 00:03:54.193 So this is gonna be 100 00:03:54.193 --> 00:03:56.593 kind of like ants running around for a minute. 101 00:03:57.440 --> 00:04:00.340 But you'll be able to see each person, so I'm gonna start. 102 00:04:03.400 --> 00:04:04.810 Good morning. - Good morning. 103 00:04:04.810 --> 00:04:06.970 My name is Gaye Lang, it's a pleasure to meet you, 104 00:04:06.970 --> 00:04:08.730 and thank you so much for coming, Michael. 105 00:04:08.730 --> 00:04:09.680 Can I hug you? 106 00:04:09.680 --> 00:04:11.210 - [Michael] Sure. 107 00:04:11.210 --> 00:04:12.369 - Welcome. 108 00:04:12.369 --> 00:04:14.952 (upbeat music) 109 00:04:42.869 --> 00:04:45.550 Why do you think we did this part? 110 00:04:45.550 --> 00:04:46.955 What do you think? 111 00:04:46.955 --> 00:04:50.125 - To break the ice. - To break the ice, what else? 112 00:04:50.125 --> 00:04:51.090 - [Woman #1] To (indistinct) space. 113 00:04:51.090 --> 00:04:52.790 - To get out of your space, what else? 114 00:04:52.790 --> 00:04:53.700 - [Woman #2] To feel comfortable. 115 00:04:53.700 --> 00:04:55.483 - To feel comfortable, what else? 116 00:04:56.327 --> 00:04:57.160 - [Woman #3] Build trust. 117 00:04:57.160 --> 00:04:59.370 - Build trust a little bit 'cause it's hard to kind of 118 00:04:59.370 --> 00:05:02.350 go ask somebody "can I hug you" or whatever. 119 00:05:02.350 --> 00:05:04.140 Anything else? 120 00:05:04.140 --> 00:05:07.206 It's also setting the tone for our circle. 121 00:05:07.206 --> 00:05:09.190 We kind of taken those rough edges off, 122 00:05:09.190 --> 00:05:10.700 we just came from outside, 123 00:05:10.700 --> 00:05:13.290 we're kind of figuring out what she's talking about. 124 00:05:13.290 --> 00:05:15.300 So it's kind of settling the area for you 125 00:05:15.300 --> 00:05:17.660 to get our space kind of settled as well. 126 00:05:17.660 --> 00:05:19.758 And it's all of the things you talked about. 127 00:05:19.758 --> 00:05:22.425 (upbeat music)