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- We're gonna start out
by introducing ourselves.

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I'm gonna break down the
circle as we go through it

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so you'll understand what the parts are.

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See this in the middle?

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This is called your centerpiece.

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That centerpiece has items in it that I,

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I use for the training,

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but more importantly that I identify with.

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When you choose a centerpiece,

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you want to choose a centerpiece

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filled with things that you

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and your community identify with.

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I know not all of you
are educators in here

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but you may work with children
or something like that

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and you work a state agency.

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So I have the Texas
Education Agency cup there

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'cause that's important to me,

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and I have some other items down there

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but that's my centerpiece.

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Inside of that centerpiece
you have a talking piece.

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I'm gonna stand up so you
all can, over here can see.

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I have several different talking pieces.

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A ruler, an apple, this little heart.

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This stick was given to me
when I went to a training,

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I think it was in Dallas,

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and I did the training and
they had these little sticks.

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I said "Oh, these are so cute!
I would like on of those."

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She said "This was a
$20,000 (indistinct)."

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"Well, you can keep that stick. I'm good."

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But they said "Dr. Lang,
we'll give you one."

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I said "You're so sweet, thank you!"

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And of course I teach

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at Texas Southern University as an adjunct

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and of course this my
little apple from them.

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And then this is my ruler
because I'm an educator.

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Of course we always know what that is.

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And this was specifically made for me

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by someone at the Texas Education Agency.

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He crochets and I said "I need me a heart,

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"because it take heart to do this work."

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This is a really hard
job, it takes some heart.

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So he made me a heart.

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So I usually use this as my talking piece

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but I will allow you all
to choose one of these.

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Anybody want to choose one
before we get started? Yes.

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- The ruler.
- The ruler.

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- Okay, you got the ruler.

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And I'm glad you choose the ruler

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because I have something
to say about this ruler.

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Relationships are with
people, are they not?

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Hello? Good.
- [Everyone] Yes.

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So, have you had a relationship
with a rule before?

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You have had a, you're in a
relationship with a rule called

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"don't go, don't stop, sit down, shut up".

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You have those relationships, you don't.

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Rules are difficult to
have relationships with.

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Values, on the other hand,

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we value some of the same things,

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we might be able to get
into a relationship.

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That's how the premise
of restorative works.

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The value systems that we have
bring us in a relationship

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and we build on those.

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Okay, so we're gonna get started.

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I will have to pass the microphone around

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as well as the talking stick.

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So to do that, when we start,

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we'll start this way or that way,

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and sometimes I'll start in
the middle, it doesn't matter.

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But whenever we have the prompt questions

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I have to have everybody to respond.

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First of all, we're gonna
start with an icebreaker.

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An icebreaker is pretty important

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when you start working with
people because it sets the tone.

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It kind of gets everybody
relaxed a little bit

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and having a fun time.

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So our icebreaker this morning

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is introducing yourself to someone,

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and this is how you're going to do it.

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Some people like to shake hands,
some people will high five,

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some people will fist
bump, some people will hug.

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I'm a hugger by the
way, I'm from Louisiana.

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We hug trees, anything.

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So I'm just a hugger.

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And the other one is butterfly,

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let me show you the butterfly.

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Like that.

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So anyway you are comfortable
with greeting someone

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you can do that.

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Now if they're not a
hugger you need to ask

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"are you a hugger and can I hug you,"

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because some people don't like
you that much in their space.

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And I'm gonna start and when I start,

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we're gonna be playing
musical chairs almost.

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So I'm gonna get up and
introduce myself to someone

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and I'm gonna take their seat.

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And the last person is
gonna come back to me

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and then I will come
back to this seat, okay.

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So this is gonna be

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kind of like ants running
around for a minute.

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But you'll be able to see each
person, so I'm gonna start.

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Good morning.
- Good morning.

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My name is Gaye Lang, it's
a pleasure to meet you,

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and thank you so much for coming, Michael.

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Can I hug you?

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- [Michael] Sure.

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- Welcome.

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Why do you think we did this part?

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What do you think?

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- To break the ice.
- To break the ice, what else?

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- [Woman #1] To (indistinct) space.

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- To get out of your space, what else?

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- [Woman #2] To feel comfortable.

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- To feel comfortable, what else?

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- [Woman #3] Build trust.

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- Build trust a little bit
'cause it's hard to kind of

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go ask somebody "can I
hug you" or whatever.

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Anything else?

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It's also setting the tone for our circle.

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We kind of taken those rough edges off,

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we just came from outside,

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we're kind of figuring out
what she's talking about.

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So it's kind of settling the area for you

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to get our space kind of settled as well.

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And it's all of the
things you talked about.

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